Richmond, VA, USA – Aptly titled after her onerous mother’s escapades, You Can’t Drive Your Car to Your Own Funeral is an honest and unique book that looks at the challenges of guardianship and cancer. Written with deep spiritual insight that can only be cultivated through adversity, and tempered with humor, this book traverses the difficult passage of end-of-life caregiving and the challenges and joys that accompany it.
“A wise, warm and at times humorous message about living life to the fullest.” – Dr. Grady Harp, Amazon Top 50 Reviewer
“I wrote You Can’t Drive Your Car to Your Own Funeral with complete dedication, commitment, and the hope that you will find loving solutions to the stressful challenges of caring for a “difficult” dear one. This is my story, but yours as well. We all have a difficult person in our lives,” says author Ann Marie Hancock.
“Ann Marie Hancock has gifted the world with a memorable book…a wise, warm and at times humorous message about living life to the fullest.” – Dr. Grady Harp, Amazon Top 50 Hall of Fame Reviewer
It was no easy task. Her mother, in her 90s and denying the existence of her cancer, refused to give up her car or her independence, and lived alone until the end. Hancock remembers one day when her mother insisted on driving them to an appointment. She ran through two red lights. When Hancock said something, her mom replied, “Don’t worry about it. You dad did it all the time.”
Hancock is no stranger to tragedy. She and her husband lost their second child shortly after birth from hyaline membrane disease. Her older daughter has Multiple Sclerosis. And Hancock herself faced death on her 50th birthday when her heart stopped and she had to be revived. When her mother was diagnosed with cancer, Hancock kept a journal for three-years with reflections on her sojourn. The journal evolved into book form because Hancock wanted to share the vital and unanticipated lessons she learned.
“It was Ann Marie’s belief in God which was her strength, and this enabled this healer to face her greatest challenge yet.” – Susan Keefe, Midwest Book Review
You Can’t Drive Your Car to Your Own Funeral was recently named a TRIPLE #1 Amazon Bestselling Book and top 100 in multiple categories:
#1 Two Hour Biog. & Memoir Short Reads
#1 Biographies of Medical Professionals
#1 Two Hour Religion & Spirituality Short Reads
#15 Professional & Academic Biographies
#47 Two Hour Short Reads
#84 Biographies and Memoirs
Hancock retired from a prolific career as talk show host of various documentaries and television programs, where she met the likes of Aba Eban, Alan Alda, Eva Gabor, Michael Landon, the Dalai Lama, Mary Higgins Clark, John Belushi, Minnie Pearl and many more. She broke the glass ceiling at WRVA Radio in 1965 while a student at the University of Richmond, as the station’s first female news reporter.
She had a reputation as a hard-nosed journalist, always after facts and credible sources, always asking the difficult questions, so it was with some astonishment that she heard about the Marian Apparitions in Medjugorje, Yugoslavia. She traveled there, spending a week questioning the “miracles”. The scientific studies on the visionaries were incredible, but well documented. What she discovered, changed her life.
Ann Marie has traveled the world speaking about the power of God’s healing love. She was encouraged by Og Mandino, whom she met in her television days. She was interviewed for Heavens’ Touch, a healing documentary for PAX television.
“My consistent message is there is One God; he did not divide us; we divided ourselves. We are all made in his image and likeness; we are all miracles.”
But her book is down-to-earth and sheds light on the universal situation of caregiving. It demonstrates what the human soul is capable of enduring, as seen by one who has experienced much tragedy. “We’re capable of emerging from these situations more balanced, stronger and more loving,” says Hancock.
Her mother, who never accepted her cancer diagnoses, is now gone. Hancock gave up three years of her life to care for her, and says the result is she now feels blessed. There is no guilt, and she knows she did the best she could for her mom.
“This book is a ‘from the heart’ blooming of love and faith – an end-of-the-tunnel light for all of us.” – Dr. Grady Harp, Amazon Top 50 Book Reviewer
The spiritual memoir is also chock full of practical advice, to help you and your loved navigate the end-of-life duties that come your way.
“This is a most hopeful and optimistic book about how we must strive to care for the ones we love, even when it hurts.” – John J. Kelly, Detroit Free Press
“God is not expecting us to be perfect, but to do our best,” says Hancock. “We have an intellect and a free will. We have the opportunity every day to choose love and to see through eyes of beauty rather than darkness.”
About Ann Marie Hancock
Ann Marie Hancock is an award-winning journalist, radio and television personality, and talk show host who has interviewed many famous people. She has appeared on Bertice Berry, Rolanda, NBC’s The Other Side, The Angel Show and Inside Edition.
Hancock is the author of two previous books: Be A Light and Wake Up America. Her latest book, You Can’t Drive Your Car to Your Own Funeral, is based on the three-year journey of caring for her terminal mother and the spiritual as well as practical lessons she learned along the way.
She has an extensive background in volunteerism: she served on the Parents Council of The Virginia Military Institute; she co-chaired the State Catholic Concilium on Education, served on the Boards of Virginia Goodwill Industries; Pediatric Infusion, the James River Association, the Virginia Wildlife Festival, has worked extensively with the Make a Wish Foundation, and hosted the first Miss Virginia Wheelchair Pageant. She has been honored by The Virginia Rehabilitation Association and received The Breath of Life Award from The American Red Cross.
Ann Marie Hancock lives in Virginia with her husband Tom, a retired nationally recognized attorney in health and hospital law, consistently listed in Best Lawyers in America.
You Can’t Drive Your Car to Your Own Funeral, ISBN 978-1641386432, 2018, Page Publishing, Inc, paperback, $16.95, hardcover, $24.95, ebook: $9.99 106 pages, available on Amazon.
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Excerpts from “You Can’t Drive Your Car to Your Own Funeral”
“We all have difficult people in our lives. This creates stress; stress changes the chemical structure of our cells, creating illness and disease.”
“I have often heard it said, God hid all the secrets inside of us… He knew it was the last place we would look.”
“I learned not to take criticism personally… it isn’t easy; we have to dig deeply… go within.”
“Mothers and daughters have a special bond… we are connected by more than an umbilical cord and for a lifetime.”
“Everything is in our computers and it begins in the womb.”
“Unforgiveness binds us.”
“Fear keeps us from our own personal truth… we are loved.”
“Part of love is respect.”
“God can do anything.”
“When God is with you; no one can stand against you.”
“Mom was a determined strong woman… I said, ‘Mom, I think you went through that red light’… she said, ‘Don’t worry about it. Your father did it all the time.'”
“Surely, we have all asked at different times in our lives, ‘Why me?’ No one escapes the treachery of sickness and pain. Anyone present at these times can be a target and claim victim status. But this serves no one. Love requires patience and true confidence which is faith.”
“We do not have to accept negative and destructive messages… We have a choice.”
“Caretaking is an art form, a delicate dance.”
“When we have a profound personal and intimate relationship with God… His grace is so overwhelming that if the whole world stood against you, it would not matter.”
“There can be no joy without forgiveness.”
“Freedom lies in love that releases pain and unforgiveness and allows complete surrender to His thoughts, His Will, His Heart.”
“Negativity originates in fear… I’m not enough so I can’t allow you to be enough.”
“There can be no joy without forgiveness.”
“We are victims of victims.”
“Why does it take crisis or tragedy to think about what really matters?”
“None of us can escape our humanity.”
“God sends angels to encamp when we need them.”
“The sick deserve to be surrounded by helpful, hopeful, loving people.”
“This journey taught me to love more, laugh more… smile at my lessons… I would learn that I can’t fix anybody but me.”
“Stuff provides momentarily joy; Love is forever.”
“The car was mom’s freedom… to her it represented peace and independence.”
“Only Love Heals!”
Ann Marie Hancock: Talk Show Host, Investigative Journalist, and… Healer
Ann Marie Hancock is an award-winning journalist, radio and television personality, and talk show host who has interviewed many famous people. Some of her favorites are Alan Alda, Eva Gabor and the Dalai Lama. She has appeared on Bertice Berry, Rolanda, NBC’s The Other Side, The Angel Show, and Inside Edition.
Hancock is the author of two previous books: Be a Light and Wake up America – with which she has traveled the world and shared her message of hope. A devout Christian, Hancock believes that God loves each of us, and offers us healing and peace in any and all of our circumstances through His grace and offer of salvation. Her latest book, You Can’t Drive Your Car to Your Own Funeral, is a three year journey with her terminal mom, as she shares spiritual and practical tools acquired during this sojourn.
Hancock considers herself blessed and believes in giving back. She has served on the Board of Virginia Wildlife Festival, Goodwill Industries and The James River Association, which ensures the health and reputation of the historic James River. Hancock has received awards from the Virginia Rehabilitation Association, and hosted the first Miss Virginia Wheelchair Pageant. She has also served on the Board of Pediatric Infusion. Hancock is passionate about her four grandchildren, and involved at her former high school alma mater, being named this year “Most Distinguished Alumna” at the renowned Altria Theatre in Virginia. Hancock and her husband have hosted benefits for the Make a Wish Foundation, and they have served as state chair persons for the Catholic Education Concilium.
Ann Marie Hancock lives in Virginia with her husband Tom a retired nationally-recognized health and hospital law attorney who has consistently been listed in Best Lawyers in America.