Los Angeles, CA – Kids in the House interviewed Deborah Gilboa, MD, popularly known as Dr. G, a go-to parenting expert. Gilboa is an author and in-demand contributor for media from NBC, ABC and FOX to The Wall Street Journal and Parents Magazine. Gilboa sat down with Kids in the House to show parents how to shape their parenting style into a tool to help your teen succeed.
Dr. G advises parents that teaching a child to thrive on their own starts with the three Rs: Respect, Responsibility, and Resilience.
“As a parent, I need to give my kids the skills and the character traits that they need so that they can find and make their own happiness,” Gilboa said.
Experts say that respect comes not only from the teen, but also from the parents. One way parents can respect their child is by having high expectations.
“Kids do what we say of them,” Gilboa said. “If we say, kids today don’t study. Then it’s easy for them to say, well, they don’t expect me to study. No problem, I can do that.”
By challenging teens with high expectations, parents show their children more respect. They demonstrate that they have faith in their teens to meet challenges.
This mindset also helps teach teens resilience. When a child faces a problem, a parent’s first instinct may be to handle the issue for them so that their child doesn’t get hurt. Gilboa says to resist that urge.
“Take one step back so that our kids have a chance to step up,” Gilboa said. “So that our kids have a chance to prove to themselves that they are good problem solvers, that they are resilient, that they can handle it when things happen that they don’t like.”
One challenge that all teens face is peer pressure. According to Gilboa, it is impossible for teens to not care about what other people think of them, especially when they are under stress, because of chemicals in the brain.
“Peer pressure just means a child who is being vigilant about how they’re being perceived by their peers and it’s influencing their decisions,” Gilboa said. “We like peer pressure when it gets our kid to study for the final because they’re in a study group that wants to do well on that final.”
When teens use peer pressure as a tool to encourage their friends to make dumb decisions, however, peer pressure becomes bad. Encouraging teens to disregard their peer’s opinions isn’t enough.
“It’s up to us [parents] to acknowledge the real pressures that our kids feel and help them find strategies that they agree could work and that they’re willing to try,” Gilboa said.
To hear the full Kids in the House interview with Deborah Gilboa, MD, click here.
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