Houston, TX – Houston author, blogger, and family advocate, Dallas Louis, has a mission to enlighten parents and spouses about what happens when divorce becomes a permanent part of their child’s life. She would also like to see churches understand and embrace the opportunity they to be a source of comfort and consolation to all the members of a divorcing or divorced family.
When people are in emotional pain they often turn to churches for support. When that pain is caused by divorce, churches can do more to assist couples and their children. In addition to the pain caused by the conflicts that led to the divorce, faithful church members may also experience deep shame that they were unable to honor their marriage vows.
When a spouse is missing from family life due to divorce there are multiple long-term challenges to contend with year after year. Children are often thoroughly confused and conflicted about what they can and cannot say to a parent about the other one. For people who’ve been active in a faith community together another challenge is deciding who stays and who leaves the church.
Often the response of the church community adds pain to an already excruciatingly painful situation. Though divorce is unfortunately common in the current century, some churches still cut divorced individuals off from the community. This is a double loss – as the individuals lose an important part of their emotional support system and the church loses the time and efforts of a loyal member.
Louis believes the church can be a haven for people who struggling to put their lives back together. First and most significantly, the church is the source of the good news that no matter how difficult life may be today, God has not forgotten or abandoned either one of them. Additionally, the church community is an ideal place to be accepted just as one is, whether sad, depressed, angry, resigned, or any other emotion.
Many churches offer some version of a Divorce Care program, which is a tremendous gift to newly divorced people. Such programs provide a confidentially safe place where participants can fully express the wide range of emotions typically experienced after a divorce. Additionally, such a program introduces participants to others who really can understand what they’re experiencing.
Churches who make the effort to support divorcing members not only prove faithful to their mandate to heal the broken hearted, they also lay a foundation for future leaders who can become part of a team of members who reach out to future people whose lives are in shambles because of a divorce.
“God holds everything and is the center of all of it,” Louis said. “I’m fallen and sinful. My God is bigger than my sin and has my marriage in the palm of His hand. Your faith can get you through every day and even the worst days of your life.” Churches that teach this with actions as well as words can be a tremendous source of hope and healing for their divorcing members and families.
Louis launched her speaking ministry in January 2017 – “Broken Crayons Still Color.” She plans to dedicate her ministry to speaking to churches, retreats, women’s conferences and organizations to bring this message of hope. Louis and her husband, Jeff, both come from divorced families. They are committed to “still color” as they show love and family to their three teenagers.
To follow Louis on her blog, go to www.dallaslouis.com, on Twitter at @DallasLouis and on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/WaitingOnNapTime
ABOUT DALLAS LOUIS
Dallas is committed to families and their success. She has a long history working at Trinity Lutheran Church and with Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) in Klein, Texas. Louis authored Girlfriends, Giggles & God, a 31-day women’s devotional in 2010 and The Mommy Diaries: How I’m Surviving Parenting Without Killing Anyone in 2012 to strengthen women in their daily lives.
To schedule an interview or public speaking engagement with Dallas Louis, contact her publicist:
Company Name: Perceptive Public Relations
Contact Person: Sandy Lawrence
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