How to Overcome Adversity: Executive Coach’s #1 Tip is “The 3 Gifts” Technique
by Edith Hamilton
Understand that every “bad” thing that happens to you can be turned into a GIFT. (Not that the bad thing is a gift: it’s not.) Yet you can CHOOSE to call on your wisdom, compassion and courage to GENERATE:
• The Gift of Knowledge. Imagine you’re “let go” by your company. You’re beset not only by anger, but also guilt. “Maybe I contributed to this by the way I responded (or failed to). Maybe if I had done more of this, or less of that, I could have prevented it.” (Maybe that’s true. Maybe not.) Eventually, consider: “What knowledge or insights would I need to gain so that the payoff in the future will be much greater than what this is costing me right now?” As you ask with genuine curiosity, without judgment, you may come upon insights into behaviors and processes that will open future doors, or save you from much worse later.
• The Gift of Power. When my VP role at a “Fortune 10” firm came to a sudden end, the stock options that evaporated could have bought a new house in Manhattan Beach. For cash. Yikes! Yet paradoxically, it eventually freed me from income anxiety: the chief reason I worked there! So think about your adversity like “weights” in the gym. As you lift and press, your muscles grow. Ask, “Which powers – empathy, curiosity, creativity, courage – must I grow, so I am not upset by this anymore? And when those qualities grow in me, what gifts will I have?” As I grew more muscles to forgive myself and others for moves that outflanked me, I found great power. It led to the rich life I now enjoy as an Executive Coach and CFO Coach, working with private equity-backed companies.
• The Gift of Inspired ACTION. Christopher Reeve, once the embodiment of Superman, became a paraplegic. He could easily have become bitter. Instead, he eventually asked, “How can I turn this into a gift?” He committed to furthering treatments related to spinal cord injuries. Near the end of his life, he could say “I’ve never been happier. I wouldn’t change a thing. My life has far more meaning and purpose.” For him, the awful events paled in comparison to the joys of inspiring so much good.
When you choose to think that anything can be turned into a gift or opportunity, what is there left to fear?!
How a Support Group can Help You Overcome Adversity
by Elyssa and Elisha Fernández
Everyone deals with trials throughout life, but we know that among the obstacles entrepreneurs face, many are overlooked. Mental and physical repercussions are barriers that appear on the career path of an entrepreneur.
We have found that adversity can be overcome effectively by finding or creating a support group with individuals who are facing similar struggles.
As entrepreneurs, we face unique challenges, such as balancing responsibilities, that can overwhelm all of us, no matter our situation.
A support group is a group of people that you know will encourage you, and bring you back to reality if they need to.
Support groups will be different for everyone. It could consist of many people, or a select few, spread across a variety of locations and platforms.
For example, we belong to a support group for Latina women in business. This group is built on a custom website where we are encouraged to ask questions, build relationships with like-minded professionals, and collaborate.
We have been able to find hundreds of people across the many support groups we belong to that always have our best interests at heart, share our passion and drive, and give us valuable feedback.
In times of stress, when everything seems to be going wrong, our support group listens to us and helps us in whatever way they can.
Depression and anxiety are common among entrepreneurs, especially because we are devoted to our work.
Entrepreneurs often feel the need to meet and exceed expectations, sometimes at the cost of our own mental and physical health. We dedicate our time, energy, and creativity to providing quality content for our audience, and work to make a difference.
With a support group, we still face these obstacles, but we know we’re not alone. Through encouraging words, helpful suggestions, and meaningful conversations, we have felt more at ease.
Here are 3 action steps you can take to create your own support group:
1 – Get Out of Your Comfort Zone: Challenge yourself to look in places you normally wouldn’t. Find communities that are already in place where you can reach people who have similar experiences.
2 – Be Authentic: Be vulnerable. It will be hard, but sharing your pain openly makes room for personal growth, and additional validation from others
3 – Find a Platform: Find a way to contact your support group consistently. We love video or voice calls, since they offer a more personal way to connect.
When the Storms of Life Come, Call Upon the Maker of the Rainbow
by Eric Stamps
Life Happens! Everyone has not only heard that statement but experienced the storms of life personally. When facing medical, financial, relational, or other issues, turn to Creator of the rainbow. “I set My rainbow in the clouds and it shall be the covenant between Me and the earth.” Genesis 9:13.
As a debt attorney, I have had the privilege of helping many people who are dealing with financial issues. God tells us in Proverbs 12:15, “the ways of a fool are right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to counsel.” God also gives us comfort by assuring us that “God goes before you, He will be with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:8.
The Corona Virus has brought a new storm in our lives. Fear, illness, and financial difficulties are higher than any other period in our lives. Now, more than ever, we need to seek the Creator of the rainbow in these mighty storms of life.
Let us remember, God will provide your needs. The economy will recover. Most people will experience healing. The fear will subside as normalcy returns. So, from now on, when the storms of life some, look to the Creator of the rainbow and be comforted.
Have a plan B.
Immigrants’ Attorney Helping Other Immigrants.
by Solomon Kanu
One way to overcome adversity is to prepared for it. Life will always change and the people who survive are those who are ready and adaptable to those changes no matter what thy are. Have strong connections with the people that matter in your life, your spouse, your children, your close friends. Make your lawyer, your accountant, your doctor etc to be people you can reach when issues crop up not people you remember when you need them.
Have a plan B.
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